Tuesday, October 31, 2006

Halloween in Montreal West

What do I love most about Halloween? The frivolity of the secular no-strings-attached holiday? The candy? The sentiments of charity and plenty?

What I love the most about Halloween is how it helps me to see my neighbourhood in a different light. An orange rainy-autumn-evening light. The houses are all lit up, people are smiling...it's like Christmas, only instead of being at home with their family everyone has taken to the streets. And in Montreal West, there are a LOT of people on the streets, because over half the people living here have small children.

Today, I can say without fear of inaccuracy, was the best Halloween I have ever spent. Better than that Halloween when Jenna and I were small and we went through two haunted houses in one night. Better than last year, which I spent dancing in the rain.

Jocelyne and Alicia came home with me. We didn't know where everyone else was, and we wanted to do something, so we walked around in the beautiful, beautiful evening rain and went to the park, where I spent a long time on the swings. (Typical). Now, just hanging with them would have so made my evening, listening to them sing and squeal (Jocelyne does a mean Guinea Pig imitation), especially since Alicia played guitar for me. There is more.

After they left, I decided to go bother Jenna. We spent an entertaining half-hour-plus walking between our houses (we ran into Weiner actually), which would also have made the evening on its own. Then I went and told Tal's parents to wish her happy birthday for me.

Tal lives across the street from me. She's a day younger than Jenna, but skipped Kindergarten. We were always together when we were younger, even though we were as different as could be imagined, but since I started at Royal West we have been seeing less and less of one another. I haven't spoken to her in about half a year.

On Halloween, you love the world and the people around you. You love the world, and you feel that the world loves you. For a brief period of time, before we must assume once more our starched uniforms. Tomorrow we have to tuck in our shirts again.

PS. I carved a soccer ball pumpkin this year!

I have a great store of advice on topics about which I know nothing.

Sunday, October 29, 2006

Aaah, it burns.

Just make it all go away.

you the ghost
waiting outside my pitter patter pitter patter rain rain rain can't sleep rain rain rain
pounding against my window you
spoke again or so
I believed

You know what I like doing? I like raking leaves. I rake them into a pile, then I spread them over the lawn and rake them again. Does wonders for the grass, I'm sure.

Thursday, October 26, 2006

I am SO not above ranting.

I shall now attempt to tackle yet another one of those topics that polarizes and upsets people. Especially me. It's another of my minor quibbles with an overused word, a quibble that has been blown way out of proportion by a mind lusting for appreciation (my own).

Pretentious.

In a world where everything and everyone is BLACKANDWHITEONEORTHEOTHER, we seem to be very often faced with two unappealing choices of adjectives, and very little hope of achieving an equilibrium between the opposites. These adjectives are then embossed on our foreheads, a permanent trademark astonishing in its restricting capabilities.

Loud or quiet. Nerdy or stupid. Leftist or outdated. Do you conform, or do you rebel? What would so and so do in such situtation? Superficial and brief analyses of character that mean more than truth. I am no less guilty of this than anyone else, but I resent the fact that I cannot break away. I resent the fact that, despite our desire for rebellion, we find it so difficult to be original.

Original. What does that mean? Creative. Innovative. Says and does things others have not thought of. Fun to be around. Will go down in history in some way. Inspiring. Unusual. Strange. Weird. Difficult to understand at times. Sees things a different way. Bold. Adventurous. Interesting.

It's more than this, though. I view true originality as a near-unattainable dream, a hope of somehow becoming more than a combination of genetics, instinct, and society. And it is near-unattainable in part because it does not exist among the BLACKANDWHITE adjectives. Instead, everyone seems to be either unoriginal (images of androids marching perfectly in step spring to mind) or pretentious.

According to the dictionary, pretentious describes someone "characterized by assumption of dignity or importance", "claiming or demanding a position of distinction or merit, especially when unjustified." Well, I'm sure this post could be considered pretentious. I'm sorry about that, guys, because I don't want it to be. I'm certainly not trying to assume an air of superiority.

But leaving my snobbish blog aside, have you noticed how often original or beautiful is substituted by pretentious? Think of music. (Simon and Garfunkel: assumption of dignity and importance or just really pretty?) Think of paintings and art. (No examples necessary.)

We're destroying our concept of originality by adding a negative connotation, linking it to this terrible word. How long before we are afraid to be original?

Birthday in a month

My mum bought some Wensleydale cheese with blueberries in it, and it was so not good. She also however bought almond butter and pineapple slices so guess what I'm having for lunch tomorrow.

I am also starting photography.

Nothing to say, again.

Sunday, October 22, 2006

Translation: I like going really really fast.

My mom said something last night that made me feel incredibly happy.

"You should join track. You'd be good at it."

It is very rare that someone tells me I am good at any sport. For the most part, no one even bothers lying to make me feel better, because they know I'll see through it. I am not athletic. Point final, end of story. I enjoy sports, but no one picks me first for their team, and I can't blame them.

Maybe the reason I hated being called a nerd was because it was so close to the truth. (If nerds are people who like LOTR and prog rock and suck at basketball, count me in. Hey, I've even played Pac-Man!) But I'm getting off-topic again and should probably give some examples to illustrate my lack of athletic ability.

I love swimming (the water is the only place I could ever possibly be called graceful), but I'm slow. I love soccer, but I have no aim. I like volleyball and tennis, but my utter lack of ability has often forced me to seek out a court where I'm not always the worst one (anyone for badminton?). I have no endurance, for which Kelsey is probably deeply shamed on my behalf. I certainly can't dance -- it is impossible for me to walk down the third floor hallway without stepping on/running into/tripping over someone.

But sprinting, like biking and skiing, involves a sudden burst of immense speed and a short length of time. This I might be able to do. I wouldn't be the best, but I dare to dream that I would not be the worst.

It might have to wait for now, though. It snowed again last night, and I have never been this excited to get on the slopes.


It's too bad my priorities and my obligations contradict one another.

Friday, October 20, 2006

Now I'm going to pick raspberries.

It is snowing.

How awesome is that?

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Should this be forgotten?

Here's an ethical dilemna.

If you were a doctor, and the man who was just brought into the hospital was a psychologist who had just killed his wife and daughters and attempted suicide...

Would you try to help him?

You probably would. You probably would help him, but I doubt you could feel like you had accomplished anything, that you had done something right.

Maybe you had some run-ins with the man in the past. Maybe you knew people who had been his patients. And now he's yours, and the autopsy of the three people he has shot has not even been completed yet.

Or maybe you aren't the doctor. Maybe you're a neighbour. A friend of the family, you have always regarded them as nice people -- hardworking, funny, easygoing. The two parents obviously loved their children and wanted to give them the best they possibly could. Then one day you check your inbox, and notice a message from the father. You scroll down and click on it, and what you read next will forever change your perception of the world.

There's one problem with my analogies. Even though I have mentioned certain elements that instantly make you think of one case in particular, I'm still not being specific enough. Because this happens. It happens every day, all over our poor, wayward world. It happens without anticipation, without justification. It happens, and it cuts those connected deeply. It happens, and it is forgotten without being understood.

So it happens again.

I have never cried when a person died. But I should be crying. I should be weeping, bowed over with grief and with desperation. I should weep, and then I should straighten up and be strong, and instead of crying I should go into the world and try, try to end evil, so that we should have fewer reasons to cry. I would not succeed, which might be a good thing. Yet I know that if I am to look back on life and think that I have done something right, I must find a way to fight.

The man in the hospital. Do we give him a second chance? Would giving him a second chance put others at risk? Does he want a second chance?

Lord, have mercy.

Why Leadership doesn't come first.

"It must be a camel."
"What?"
"You know. A camel."
"A camel?"
"Yeah, a camel. You know, in the desert...." (takes huge bite of sandwich)

(Me talking with Neil. I don't think you have to ask which one is Neil.)
Life -- looking slightly better. Today three fourths of the guitar lesson was us improvising on the chord Neil uses to tune. He was tuning, he played something, I said, "What's that?"
The beauty of dreams lies in their inability to transpose into "reality."

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Not really a post, so much as a thought.

Today I had the most incredibly bad TUESDAYISH day ever. I mean, it was but for a few exceptions unspeakably bad.

What follows is one of those few exceptions.

I was walking home in the rain, all but completely soaked, still a block from my house, when this guy got out of his car or something and crossed the street.

"You want an umbrella?" he said, extending a black folded specimen.

"Nah, I'm good," I answered. Smiling.

"You sure?"

"Yeah."

He walked back to his car. I walked home.

Yeah, but I got first clarinet.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Computers class.

It was my fault, really.

I remember how I phrased the question. "Would you like us," I inquired, "to include the total discount as well?"

She paused for a moment. Well, actually, that's a lie.

"No, you don't have to. Well, actually maybe it would be nice, for presentation's sake. Yeah, maybe. You know, that reminds me of the time I had one of those scratch and save coupons, and I scratched it and I got five dollars off...."

(Some time later.)

"So I got the toaster for seventeen dollars off, it was one of those nice retro toasters. For awhile, all the toasters were ugly, so we just held onto our old one, which wasn't very nice, but now we have this new retro toaster that I got seventeen dollars off, and it really toasts so well."

Yep, that's Ms Shottenfeld.

Wish for a dream?

Tuesday, October 10, 2006

Lies. (sarcasm enclosed)

I'm tired. I'm tired of everyone lying, all the time. I'm tired of no one knowing what the truth is. Yet I don't know if I'm capable of hearing the truth.

Consider this. Most people are not going to tell their friend that they suck at what they like doing. I don't really see anyone coming up to me tomorrow and saying, "Fred you're so self-obsessed and you can't write, you really can't. You should also give up guitar now."

If someone told me the truth -- pure, brutal -- would I actually be happy? I speak not only of someone not telling me a white lie or being honest without reservation like Alec, although that does play a part -- I wouldn't like being told I need to shower more often. No, I'm going on one of my everything tangents. Hang on tight.

The problem is our apparent lack of concern for anything other than the mundane and the unimportant. The problem is that we are constantly lying to ourselves, telling ourselves to focus on the book report due in a week rather than the future of society or the critical state of affairs in corners of the world. If we lost this grey mass of illusion with which we swathe our souls, if our deceptions disintegrated and we were left standing free and naked, what then? Would we be better people, or would we just be very very lost?

It takes strength to perceive. It takes strength to see beyond surfaces, because simplification is the focus of humanity. So what if we exist in a world we don't understand, faced with an end we cannot halt, uncertain of any meaning in our actions? Narrow your horizons a little, my dear, and you'll be able to see what wonderful advances science has made. After all, where would we be without the toaster oven?

Clothe yourself in delusion, and walk your path with your eyes shut and your fists in your ears. Do not dream, do not wonder, do not consider anything other than the placing of one foot in front of the other. The faster you walk, the swifter you arrive at something you do not want to think about. If you walk slowly, on the other hand, you run the risk of contemplation -- and this frightens you, because it's entirely likely you will then begin to think about that thing you do not want to think about. You cannot remember anything earlier than five minutes ago, but there isn't anything interesting to remember anyway.

Hey, I just simplified life! Great! Now I can go do my book report.

Revelation of the month: I can't control the passage of time!

Sunday, October 08, 2006

Thanksgiving.

I know exactly what's going to happen tonight.

At five forty-five, my uncle and his wife will show up. My mother will go downstairs to welcome them, and they will go to sit in the living room. My father will turn up and greet them warmly. No one will be eating because my uncle and aunt are fasting until the sun goes down, although they will probably have one of my aunt's spicy Turkish appetizers in hand as they walk through the door. I will descend the stairs to say hello before retreating to the kitchen to "study french"...and of course I am far more likely to wind up reading a book. My brother will lock himself away in a corner of the house.

At six o'clock, Pat will ring the doorbell. Before my dad met my mum, Pat did most of his shopping for him (apparently he always really liked carrots). Pat is quite a bit older than my parents, possibly in her early seventies. She lives alone and loves cats. My father will head to the kitchen to pour her some wine -- red, most likely.

At six thirty, Naomi will arrive, weighed down with an oversized bowl of homemade cranberry sauce. She puts orange peel in it. Naomi is someone I have known as long as Pat, which is all my life. She works at the hospital, has a son who doesn't talk to her much, changes her hair bi-weekly, and is very short. She will immediately head for the kitchen, where Pat and my mother will already be working. My uncle and aunt will not be alone, as I will have moved to the rocking chair in the living room, and my sister will be by this time bouncing around on the ground floor. No sign of my brother yet.

My mother will have made butternut squash, peas, and mashed potatoes. My father will be working on the turkey. The dressing is different every time, according to his whims (this time, he has added golden raisins and perhaps even bits of the croissants he bought yesterday morning). My brother and I will have set the table, a task we relish -- distributing Van Gogh placemats, hauling out the fine silverware, running around the dining room table until everything is perfect. Naomi will begin to set up, bringing the squash in -- Pat and I are huge squash fans.

My mother's favourite holiday is Thanksgiving, so it should come as no surprise that the dining room (only used on occasions such as this, New Year's and Easter) is painted a festive light orange. I have decorated the house with little squash, Indian corn and the tiny pumpkins we picked up at the farmer's market. My favourite is an extremely twisted little gourd that greatly resembles a bloated swan.

My brother (who will have materialised by this time) and sister will want to drink milk out of the little wine glasses we keep in the cupboard. I will pour their drinks, spilling at least once. There might be music in the living room -- at Christmas we put on the George Winston December album, and on new years' we have been known to play Tarkan. Maybe I'll put on a Rolling Stones record.

When it is dark and all is deemed well, we shall all move into the dining room, whereupon someone (probably my siblings in unison) will say grace. Then: passing around the dishes until everyone has some of everything they want. I love cranberry sauce; I put it on everything, I eat it with pancakes for weeks after. The mashed potatoes might be a bit dry, and we don't usually have gravy. My aunt will be vigorously shaking salt and pepper on everything on her plate, and my uncle will emulate her with a little more moderation.

We will begin to eat. The first thing out of anyone's mouth will be, "Ian, this turkey is so good." I'm predicting Pat. From there, where will the conversation go? Usually, it centres around all things old -- old movies, old television shows, days of old in Montreal. I will listen intently, slightly uncomfortable on my chair. The furniture in that room is beautiful, but the chairs are a bit wide and low for my liking. I'll probably have to keep getting up to go fetch myself some more of whatever I'm drinking. I'll pour a glass, leave the empty glass beside the sink, and go back when I'm thirsty again. I'm serious. That's what I do.

Talk may turn to Dr Shanks, the oldest of the old family friends, and not present at the table. He is in his mid-eighties, and every year we go out to his cottage in Sharbot Lake, Ontario. Mosquitoes, archery, and beautiful landscapes. Now, his far-younger wife of so many years and with whom he has three children is leaving him, forcing him to sell the cottage (in his family for generations!) in order to keep his apartment here. Dr Shanks is a painter, and doesn't hear very well.

My father, who is far more the life of the party and far better at telling stories or jokes than I am, will possibly go on a tirade about the dismal state of the country's future, at which point I will laugh and ask for more turkey.

I will probably be the first to leave. My family is huge on family dinners, but you're allowed to leave whenever you please -- none of this horrible asking to be excused business. I'll head to the piano, forgetting that we have guests who don't want to hear me, and play the right hand of the Minuet from Le Tombeau de Couperin. In due course, the rest of the group will retire to the living room, where we shall talk and eventually dine on pumpkin pie (of which I am not terribly fond, but is still better than cheesecake) and apple pudding.

Someone will put some music on. I'm sure this time. I'll become stressed about my music assignment and run off to stare at it for half an hour. Then everyone will leave, laughing as they walk out the door.

Saturday, October 07, 2006

MOON

This is my 200th post.

Once it became evident that i was going to hit a number I had never dreamed of reaching, I planned to shut down my blog at that point. I do not intend to do that anymore, but this website is going to experience a few changes.

You may have noticed that posts have of late become fewer and further between. Do not expect a return to the old quotidienne. If anything, I will be writing less.

The thing is, I don't want this blog to be an obligation. I have far too many of those as it stands. I want this to be my place, my little fenced-off area of the internet where my thoughts may roam free. I don't really need everyone to always read it anymore, although I would be happy if you checked back here if you thought about it.

Because I will be posting less, I hope the quality and interest of my writing will be higher, although I can't really make any promises.

So was I born five days late?

Friday, October 06, 2006

Somebody spoke and I went into a dream

"She scold a gore! She scold a gore!"
-Ali B.

"So if x is four, y is two, z is sex...uh...Marco is passing notes to Hadas...."
-Mr Gallucci. Hadas isn't even in our class.

As some of you have heard, I experienced last night for the first time a dream that I woke myself up from because I was laughing. I don't know what I was laughing at. Someone said something funny in the dream.

I was therefore very very tired all day today. As I walked to school way too early, I started singing that bit from A Day in the Life that would describe this morning so well (woke up, fell out of bed, dragged a comb across my head etc.) and I realized a few things.

1. The wording is really cool. Made the bus in seconds flat? Why can't I talk like that?
2. The important words in most songs are not only stressed but are on more important notes (usually higher).
3. It's amazing how you can make a song with only a few different chords sound so good. Like Let it Be. That's four.

And here I was thinking most of the stuff I listen to was simple. Easy to play backup on, sure. But it makes me feel very small to think of the time and talent necessary to create something.
I now have a pair of dollar-store sunglasses in my locker, along with the Slinky, assorted magnets, pictures, napkins, light-tight container, rolls of film, frog t-shirt, cleats, extra lock, extra sweater, Venetian flags, newspaper clippings, and of course binders (but a hell of a lot more loose papers than folders).

Lucky thing we met. Or not lucky.

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Dreams: Distant Bells

Today was a good day. I feel inspired to blog on good days.

I had a dream last night. It was an epic dream, long and complicated. When I woke up, I forgot everything. That doesn't normally happen; usually I retain some elements or at least the general feeling of the dream for awhile. Yet this morning I instantly forgot what I had been doing for the past few hours, except that in my dream I had forgotten something. I don't remember what I forgot.

Often I have dreams that create a history for themselves. For example, if I'm dreaming about walking down a street, I might dream about remembering walking down that street before. In this way, I can have déja vus about things that never happened.

I have also been known to switch characters. Most of my dreams read like stories, but stories that do not end when they are supposed to. Sometimes I start out as me, but run through a series of other people -- no matter what gender or what "side" they're on. And often if I dream about other people, they wind up becoming more of fictional characters, stitched together from my memories of the other people I have met. (I'm sure you combine your friends in your dreams, too.)

What about this feeling I've spoken of? It's difficult to pinpoint. Every dream has a certain distinctive...emotion, I suppose, or Sense. If I dream about someone, then see them the next day, I'll experience a rush of the feeling of the dream. When I lie down to sleep, I sometimes have a flashback of the previous night's dream, and it is the general feeling of the dream that explodes in my mind.

That's all for now. I can't arrange my thoughts in a reasonable order, and I have to go to guitar.

I'm actually pretty good at passing up opportunities.

Sunday, October 01, 2006

Gazing at the Pale Indigo Sky

It was different when I came to Royal West.

Emboldened by the shared nervousness of the entire grade, I was outspoken among people I had not met before -- for the first time in my life since my talkative three-year-old days (and even then, by the way, I was shy around strangers). I was shy, but I was not afraid. I was tall, I was strong, I had to prove myself, and I revelled in the joy of the challenge. This was my opportunity, my chance to begin anew.

So it was for the first week. By the third day, I had completely adjusted to a rhythm that, although new to me, felt far more natural than my previous habits. I talked to people. I was naïve, I was happy, I said things without thinking or caring that I said things without thinking. I walked quickly through the corridors, but I watched every face that passed me by, memorising every detail.

I do not look at people who pass me anymore. If I see a friend, I will smile or reach out a hand (and probably look stupid through doing so). Yet I have acquired the customary high school Aloof and Distracted Air and Demeanour. My eyes are glazed when I stroll the hallways on my own, like most eyes around me. I am particularly good at this.

I can trace the origins of this tendency back to the eighth grade, when I moved up to the third floor. I was no longer one of the cherished and separated babies of the institution. And suddenly, things began to change far more quickly than I had ever imagined.

Enter grade eight. Enter drugs, enter true dating, enter advanced classes, enter that horrible feeling of being ignored, left behind. Enter a world where everyone analyses themselves constantly, trying to prove their depth of character. Enter hair straighteners and crises among friends. Enter skipping school, enter lying. So much lying, and I was so easy to lie to.

What about me? I suppose I developed a Personality, specially designed to be perceived by those I did not know well. I suppose I began to let more things go, learning that even on the battlefield, laughter is far stronger than insults. Perhaps I became more eloquent when speaking. Perhaps my horizons stretched a bit. And I began to be too important to look at people.

I am still the girl. I am still that bizarre, overly dramatic, Floyd-obsessed, long-haired, quiet, somewhat unremarkable, somewhat annoying, pen-pushing aspiring musician who was – and, more importantly, who will be.

Today we stand among the ashes. The dust moves a little in the breeze, as we hope for another dawn. We do not know what to do. We do not know what lies ahead.

But I am not afraid.

I think I would love it.